Friday, November 13, 2009

Just Sayin'

"It is the element of Love that makes Joy so much deeper and truly meaningful than superficial happiness.

Without love and the ability to combine it with happiness to get joy, we might as well be a grove of pine trees. Soaking up the world’s resources and living, but not relating. Relationships are the key.
For me, the meaning of life is the joy that is found in relationships with family, friends." - Random woman.

I've been thinking a lot lately about what it means to be in a satisfying healthy relationship. Obviously this is subjective to each individual; we all have different needs and desires to fulfill.

I was searching for some sort of text or blog or anything really where i could read about other peoples trials and accomplishments in this area. You can't have good without the bad, I know this much is true. I want to know what it means to really support someone in a relationship. What is the general consensus about how this is to be done?

What I found was surprising to me. If you google "support a loved one" you'll find tips and strategies on how to support someone with grief, someone with cancer, someone who suffered a loss, someone who lost a job, even someone who is bipolar. While I feel like that is fantastic and helpful I have to admit I was sorely disappointed.

Why don't we support people even when they are up? When their luck is good. When life is enjoyable don't you people still need support? I personally want it all day every damn day. Not just when i'm sad. I want to be with someone who will support me in every single thing I do, both happy and sad.

Its almost like at christmas time you know when people always say God bless you and happy holidays and be cheerful. Why do we do that only around the holidays? Should we not wish people well all the time? In July? In February? Should we not share love and joy all year long? I believe I should. I try to.

I want to be with someone who understands this concept. Someone who wants to encourage and support me even when i'm on top of my game. Doing things I love doing.

I don't know everything there is to know about love and relationships. I have a lot to learn. I think my parents probably still learn new things every day. I don't ever expect to know exactly how it works. I don't want to give up though.

As Conor Oberst said "i'd rather be working for a paycheck than waiting to win the lottery"

I'd rather be with the person I love the most and make mistakes and learn from them and support each other no matter what than sit here alone wondering what is the right or wrong thing to do.


double-jointed sentence structures said...

guess you made a decision eh?

I'm happy.

work for the paycheck.

kat said...

you don't have to sit there alone just because you pass on this one love. Trust me